Self Consistency, a Theory of Personality, (Location 271)
an idea—information received from the outside world, and evaluated by the forebrain—which (Location 680)
You act, and feel, not according to what things are really like, but according to the image your mind holds of what they are like. You have certain mental images of yourself, your world, and the people around you, and you behave as though these images were the truth, the reality, rather than the things they represent. (Location 685)
effort was the one big deterrent to either breaking a bad habit, or learning a new one. (Location 1065)
the best way to break a habit is to form a clear mental image of the desired end result, and to practice without effort toward reaching that goal. (Location 1066)
concrete. They also are very heavy and are sinking down into the bed and exerting tremendous pressure against the bed. In your mind’s eye see a friend come into the room and attempt to lift your heavy concrete legs. He takes hold of your feet and attempts to lift them. But they are too heavy for him. He cannot do it. Repeat with arms, neck, etc. (Location 1093)
It is conscious thinking which is the “control knob” of your unconscious machine. (Location 1138)
that a man should make up his mind with emphasis as to what he rationally believes, and should never allow contrary irrational beliefs to pass unchallenged or obtain a hold over him, however brief. (Location 1218)
“see” that some negative concept of his was inconsistent with some other deeply held belief. (Location 1224)
that all ideas and concepts which make up the total content of “personality” must seem to be consistent with each other. (Location 1226)
If the inconsistency of a given idea is consciously recognized, it must be rejected. (Location 1227)
Trace down the belief about yourself, or the belief about the world, or other people, which is behind your negative behavior. (Location 1240)
both behavior and feeling spring from belief. (Location 1245)
“It ain’t necessarily so,” is a good motto. (Location 1305)
It is the job of conscious rational thought to decide what you want, select the goals you wish to achieve—and concentrate upon these (Location 1310)
It is the job of your conscious mind to pay strict attention to the task at hand, (Location 1314)
keep your automatic mechanism currently advised of the environment and allow it to respond spontaneously. (Location 1316)
It is not the job of your conscious rational mind, however, to create or to “do” the job at hand. (Location 1317)
We cannot squeeze creative thought out of the Creative Mechanism by making conscious effort. (Location 1319)
We cannot “do” the job to be done by making strained conscious efforts. (Location 1320)
And because we try and cannot, we become concerned, anxious, frustrated. (Location 1321)
conscious rational thought selects the goal, gathers information, concludes, evaluates, estimates and starts the wheels in motion. It is not, however, responsible for results. We must learn to do our work, act upon the best assumptions available, and leave results to take care of themselves. (Location 1324)
When once a decision is reached and execution is the order of the day, dismiss absolutely all responsibility and care about the outcome. (Location 1364)
On Vital Reserves, Henry Holt and Co., Inc., New York.) (Location 1366)
(Bertrand Russell, The Conquest of Happiness, Liveright Publishing Corporation, New York.) (Location 1401)
His method? He kept a number of ideas “hatching” and each night before retiring would select an “incubating idea” and “stir it up” by thinking intensely about it. The (Location 1549)
you are to be happy at all, you must be happy—period! not happy “because of.” (Location 1633)
Happiness Is a Mental Habit Which Can Be Cultivated and Developed (Location 1638)
No one, other than a saint, can be 100 per cent happy all the time. And, as George Bernard Shaw quipped, we would probably be miserable if we were. But we can, by taking thought, and making a simple decision, be happy and think pleasant thoughts a large share of the time, regarding that multitude of little events and circumstances of daily living which now make us unhappy. (Location 1641)
Much of this habitual unhappiness-reaction originated because of some event which we interpreted as a blow to our self-esteem. (Location 1645)
You are letting outward events and other people dictate to you how you shall feel and how you shall react. You are acting as an obedient slave and obeying promptly when some event or circumstance signals to you—‘Be angry’—‘Get upset’—or ‘Now is the time to feel unhappy.’” (Location 1654)
Robert Louis Stevenson said, “The habit of being happy enables one to be freed, or largely freed, from the domination of outward conditions.” (Location 1657)
“How can I possibly be happy?” asked a businessman. “I have just lost 200,000onthestockmarket.Iamruinedanddisgraced.”“Youcanbehappier,”Isaid,“bynotaddingyourownopiniontothefacts.Itisafactthatyoulost200,000. It is your opinion that you are ruined and disgraced.” (Location 1663)
Epictetus, which has always been a favorite of mine—“Men are disturbed,” said the sage, “not by things that happen, but by their opinion of the things that happen.” (Location 1666)
Happiness is a symptom of normal, natural functioning and when man is functioning as a goal-striver, he tends to feel fairly happy, regardless of circumstances. (Location 1678)
Psychologist H. L. Hollingworth has said that happiness requires problems, plus a mental attitude that is ready to meet distress with action toward a solution. (Location 1682)
Do this by practicing a positive aggressive attitude, both in actual everyday situations which come up, and also in your imagination. See yourself in your imagination taking positive, intelligent action toward solving a problem or reaching a goal. See yourself reacting to threats, not by running away or evading them, but by meeting them, dealing with them, grappling with them in an aggressive and intelligent manner. (Location 1702)
we should store up our moments of happiness and triumph so that in a crisis we can draw upon these memories for help and inspiration. (Location 1721)
Habits, on the other hand, are merely reactions and responses which we have learned to perform automatically without having to “think” or “decide.” They are performed by our Creative Mechanism. (Location 1779)
What we need to understand is that these habits, unlike addictions, can be modified, changed, or reversed, simply by taking the trouble to make a conscious decision—and then by practicing or “acting out” the new response or behavior. (Location 1785)
The dancer can consciously “decide” to learn (Location 1787)
It is literally true that success breeds success. (Location 1988)
Note: Story of dan shaw telling me to walk through people in paris. story of the time i mistakenly didnt dko a pre-contrast ct head on a baby
imagine how you would feel if you succeeded—and then feel that way now. (Location 2145)
Excessive and misdirected aggressiveness follows frustration as night follows day. (Location 2146)
trouble ensues when we are blocked or frustrated in achieving our goal. (Location 2152)
The answer to aggression is not to eradicate it, but to understand it, and provide proper and appropriate channels for its expression. (Location 2161)
an animal cannot feel or express affection, until channels have been provided for the expression of aggression. (Location 2164)
Misdirected aggression is an attempt to hit one target (the original goal) by lashing out at any target. (Location 2169)
If you feel like snapping at someone, stop and ask yourself—“Is this merely my own frustration at work? What has frustrated me?” (Location 2170)
The next time someone is rude to you in traffic, try this: Instead of becoming aggressive and thus a menace yourself, say to yourself: “The poor fellow has nothing against me personally. Maybe his wife burned the toast this morning, he can’t pay the rent, or his boss chewed him out.” (Location 2174)
own inner stability is in itself an important goal to maintain. (Location 3115)
The more intense the crisis situation under which you learn, the less you learn. (Location 3212)
It is much easier and more effective to simply define your goal or end result. Picture it to yourself clearly and vividly. Then simply capture the feeling you would experience if the desirable goal were already an accomplished fact. Then you are acting spontaneously and creatively. (Location 3466)
All that is needed is some experience where you succeeded in doing what you wanted to, in achieving what you set out to achieve, and something that brought you some feeling of satisfaction. (Location 3585)
