Title - Cal not feeling involved in pregnancy Tags - sapstory

Once upon a time, there was …

  • Lady said she needed to find a way to convince husband to have scan
  • First time we realised that partner’s might not be as keen

Every day …

  • Apparent resistance from some dad’s
  • Some dads sat and didn’t engage; disinterested

One day …

  • Maria and I were discussing her long-term aim for SAP
  • Main purpose: provide a place where pregnant women feel safe, valued and acknowledged
  • I asked: what about partner’s - how do they fit into the aim?

Because of that …

  • Said I noticed - during pregnancy with Mabel - that focus of health professionals 100% on mum; not eye contact from most
  • That’s ok - women are doing all the work
  • But in antenatal classes - and when baby born - expectation to pull weight; suddenly a partnership

Because of that …

  • Discussed how it helped women for loved ones to be involved in scan

Because of that …

  • Maria said you can feel like it’s you against the world when pregnant BECAUSE all the focus is on you
  • When you feel the presence and involvement of loved ones; don’t feel alone; makes you feel safe

Until finally …

  • Appreciated importance of involvement of partner and loved ones; not just after birth, from the very beginning
  • Discovered how critical involving loved one’s is to long-term aim for SAP

Ever since then …

  • I believe Maria already tried to involve partner’s in the scan; mentioned in a lot of feedback and testimonials
  • Since this discovery (clarification of reason for importance); started paying special attention to loved ones, not just at scan but in whole experience from first interaction with SAP; e.g. asking for name of guest so Maria can
  • Developed my own appreciation of how important it is to proactively involve myself in the pregnancy; will make more effort if/when pregnant again

To teach or glorify a value linked to them buying what you are selling

Values:

Involvement of loved ones Safety

Point:

Can feel like it’s you against the world when pregnant. When your loved ones are involved, makes you feel safe; not alone.

Benefit:

Maria actively tries to involve all partner’s, children, family, friends in scan.